One of my friends on Facebook posted this ("Don't make some your priority when they only make you an option.") as her status and it made me start thinking...
How many of my friends to I still try to maintain contact and friendship with when they only consider me an 'option'. Why do I frustrate myself in trying to upkeep those friendships? I think my life would be less 'annoying' if I stopped trying to be the optional/friend. I don't like to be only an option. Not saying that I need to be a priority to everyone, but merely saying that if I don't feel 'friendship' coming from someone, why should I try to keep sending friendship their way?
Does that make sense?
I think I'm going to clean up my "friend list" in life. And then on Facebook. Or maybe on Facebook first, then in life.
If we haven't talked in a while, there's no need to panic. I don't base this clean up on how often we talk. I base this clean up on how my friendship to you has been received and/or reciprocated. If you know me as well as a friend should, you know what I'm talking about. I am debating about actually posting this on Facebook before I clean up that list, but I'm not sure yet.
At least, I have posted it here. If I do "unfriend" you in the real world, you will not necessarily know about it. If I keep you as a friend in the real world, you may not necessarily know about it. So why am I posting about it? Because I read a quote and it made me think about my friends and who I feel like an 'option' with. Or in easier terms to understand... who am I in a one-sided friendship with? Those are the friends who are in danger.
Blah blah blah
I love my friends and am very loyal to them. But enough is enough. If I don't feel like you view me as a friend anymore, then there's nothing more I can do. I love you, but Bye.
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OK! you are not my optional friendI I cherish all the experiences we've had, watching Hannah Montana ;) eating various different places and chatting. You being one of my only friends I had the WHOLE time I was in the singles ward. And now that I am married, I often think about how much I appreciate and love you. Thank you for being my friend, I truly feel you are a true friend.
And can we play soon?
Sorry you've been feeling that way with people. Pseudo friends aren't as fun/cool as real friends, for sure! Hope you feel better and the cleaning makes you feel lighter. =)
You. Are. Not. An. Option. You are a necessity.
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